
family mediation
in Newbury and online
Separating? Need help agreeing plans for children, finances, or what happens next?When communication has broken down, making important decisions together can be really hard.Scope Mediation helps separating couples and parents work through difficult decisions calmly, fairly and constructively.You don't need to know whether mediation is the best choice for you before getting in touch. The first step is a confidential one-to-one conversation.Arrange a private MIAM.Alternatively, you can email, or give Catherine a call on 07305 210980.
how I can help
Children and parenting
Sort out where children are going to live and their time with each parent; agree handovers, holidays, activities, costs, and parenting expectations.
Finances and property
Work through the financial decisions that come up on separation and divorce, such as dividing property and other assets, future living arrangements, debts, incomes and pensions.
MIAMs (Mediation Information and Assessment Meetings)
If you've been told you need a MIAM, or simply want to understand how mediation can help, I can talk everything through with you in a confidential one-hour meeting.
your first meeting is private
A Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) is your starting-point. It lasts about an hour and it is confidential and one-to-one. You can explain what is happening, ask questions and find out what your options are.Having a MIAM doesn't mean you have to mediate - mediation is a voluntary process and it is subject to suitability. The goal of the MIAM is to inform yourself and gain clarity.All meetings are available online or in person in Newbury, by arrangement.MIAM: £125.
Arrange a private MIAM.
Hello, I'm Catherine Gray.
FMC Accredited Family Mediator
I've been a family mediator since 2016 and I'm also a Child-Inclusive Mediator. I'm fully accredited with the Family Mediation Council to mediate all family issues. I'm registered with the Family Mediation Voucher scheme (worth £500 to parents mediating over children) and I'm authorised to sign court forms.People often come to me feeling lost or stuck. My role isn't to take sides but to give you some space and structure to understand what you're facing, explore possibilities, and arrive at a way forwards that suits your particular circumstances.

“Your professionalism has made this whole process much easier.”“Your willingness to listen to both sides with equal measure was much appreciated.”
Not sure what to do next?
That's absolutely fine.You don't have to decide whether mediation is right before contacting me.Tell me a little about what is happening and we can work out the appropriate next step.
Phone 07305 210980.
Email: [email protected]
In person appointments: Newbury.
Online meetings also available.
Arrange a private MIAM.
frequently asked questions
what are the advantages of mediation?
Mediation is a tried and tested method for resolving family disputes. It is widely recognised as:
Less stressful and acrimonious than going to court.
More affordable than relying exclusively on solicitors.
Supportive and empowering, because it respects people's own experience and decision-making.
Helpful for improving family communication, with significant benefits for children.
how does the process work?
Mediation goes step-by-step, starting with a confidential individual pre-mediation meeting, or MIAM. You can book a MIAM for yourself at any time.I will write to invite the other person once I've met with you and understand whether mediation can proceed.Once I've met with both of you individually, we can arrange a first joint meeting at a mutually convenient time.The number of joint meetings needed will depend on what you want to get out of the process and how much discussion it takes. Joint meetings are 90 minutes each and the focus is set by your priorities on the day.Mediation is legally privileged as well as confidential, which makes it a protected space. You can take as much legal, financial and pensions advice as you need between meetings. You will get some notes from me for every joint meeting to help you.I can write up final agreements as a Memorandum of Understanding, which can be turned into a legal binding document if required.
how long does mediation take?
The process can go as quickly or as slowly as necessary, depending on your needs and diaries.Typically, mediation about children takes 1-3 meetings, financial mediation takes 2-4 meetings, and where people are discussing both children and finances, it is helpful to allow between 3 and 5 meetings.
how does the family mediation voucher work?
The voucher is available for joint mediation meetings to do with children. I'll check at your MIAM if you're eligible and then I can apply with your consent having met with both of you. The cost of meetings is deducted from the voucher until the funds have been used up.
will my children's views get taken into account?
Relationship breakdown creates unique stresses on children and it is important that their needs are kept uppermost throughout. I am committed to helping parents hold this focus.If suitable, Child-Inclusive Mediation can offer a safe, confidential and age-appropriate way to include children's voices in the mediation process, so that they feel their thoughts and views have also been heard.Consulting with children is voluntary - both for parents and for children - and it only happens with both parents' written consent. This means that the process only starts after it has been discussed fully with both parents. It is usually for children aged 10 and above.We can talk in more detail about how the process works at your MIAM, as appropriate.
Mediation may not be right for my circumstances - do I have to do it?
No one has to mediate if they don't want to. What is important is that you feel you're making an informed choice.In your MIAM, I'll check whether mediation is suitable and how I can manage the process so that it could work for you. I can also talk you through your other options. Deciding mediation is unsuitable is OK. On the other hand, if you decide to give it a go, you are free to stop it at any time.
what if we can't agree?
If mediation doesn't work out - either because it doesn't get off the ground or because agreements remain out of reach - I can signpost you to other options as appropriate.As an accredited family mediator, I can also sign a form to confirm that mediation has been attempted and this would allow you to make a court application if necessary.
why choose Scope Mediation?
Every family is unique. Having spent nine years working for Berkshire Family Mediation before setting up Scope Mediation, I'll draw on significant experience to see how best I can help you.
I offer a local service, with local knowledge and a local office. Online meetings are also available to give people maximum flexibility.
My goal is to give people value for money - I see the financial strain separation puts on families. Prices are kept as affordable as possible and I'm signed up with the Family Mediation Voucher scheme, which is worth £500 per family for mediation regarding children.
I believe in transparency. You pay a flat rate for each meeting you attend - no variable hourly rates or hidden costs. For more information about fees, click here.
Please note that the safety of adults and children is always paramount and mediation may not always be suitable. If concerns are raised about a risk of harm, particularly to a child, I may need to inform the appropriate authorities.
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Newbury & surrounding area
Berkshire, Hampshire, Oxfordshire & Wiltshire
fees
Scope Mediation operates a fixed rate for meetings, to make it easy for you to manage your costs.Room hire is built into the fees so that you can choose to meet in person or online without any extra cost.Scope Mediation is signed up to the Family Mediation Voucher scheme, which offers all parents £500 off the cost of joint mediation meetings where children are under discussion. The voucher means you can have a free first joint meeting and will get a significant discount if you return for a second meeting. I can apply to the voucher scheme on your behalf.Scope Mediation doesn't currently hold a Legal Aid contract. For further information on Legal Aid, please visit www.gov.uk/legal-aid.
| Service | Cost per participant | additional information |
|---|---|---|
| Initial meeting (MIAM) | £125 | 50-70 minutes |
| Joint mediation meeting | £160 | 90 minutes |
| Financial documents | £125 | upfront fee |
| Child consultation | £40 | plus mediation costs |
| Signed MIAM form | £10 | |
| Meeting cancellation | £80 | At less than 3 working days' notice |
Scope Mediation Privacy Policy
Scope Mediation is registered with the Information Commissioner’s Office and we are committed to protecting data, and respecting and protecting privacy. This policy explains:• Who the policy is relevant to.
• The legal basis of the policy.
• What information we collect, why and how.
• How we store your information and how it can be shared.
• Use of cookies and external links.
• Changes to this privacy policy.
• How to contact us.Who is this policy relevant to?This privacy policy is relevant to:• People who mediate with us and their families;
• People who contact us in order to explore the option of mediation, for themselves or on behalf of others;
• People who may be invited to consider the possibility of mediation, because someone connected with them has approached us regarding our service.What is the legal basis for collecting and processing your data?Data protection legislation gives various reasons why a company may collect personal data. The legal reasons that apply to Scope Mediation are:
• Your permission – we process data with your explicit and implied consent – i.e. in line with your reasonable expectations.
• Legitimate interest – in order to provide relevant information to you as a service.
• Contractual obligation – in the course of providing a mediation service to you.
• Legal obligation – to comply with the law.‘Processing’ is a broad term that covers any operation performed on data. This includes collecting, recording, storing, organising, altering, retrieving, using, sharing, restricting, erasing, or destroying the data. Processing your data must be for legitimate reasons and our purpose is to provide mediation.When you agree to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM), you are giving consent for us to process data about your case in strict accordance with data protection regulations. If you choose to mediate with us, you are consenting to us processing your personal data by signing the Agreement to Mediate. If you have not contacted us, we hold details only to offer you the opportunity to explore family mediation and give access to a mediation information process so that you can protect your legal rights within the family justice system. This approach is in line with the Children and Families Act 2014 section10 and also with the Family Procedure Rules 2010 (updated in 2024), which govern how UK courts deal with cases in the family justice system.What data may we collect and how?Scope Mediation may collect the following data:• Personal information (e.g. name, email address, home address, phone number, date of birth, relationship status, gender, sexual orientation, ethnic identity, religion).
• Family details (e.g. partners’ names and names and dates of birth of any dependants).
• Sensitive personal data (e.g. details of disabilities, neurodivergences, health issues, safeguarding incidents, domestic abuse and prior court involvement).
• Financial information (e.g. bank details, asset values, liabilities and income).
• Attendance data (e.g. the number, date and type of meetings attended).Data may be collected from:• First enquiries by phone, email or website referral form.
• Third party referrals from e.g. solicitors, allocated case workers or family members.
• Telephone conversations, emails, documents provided for mediation, and verbal communication during mediation meetings.How will we use your data?Scope Mediation gathers and processes data for the following purposes:• To respond to enquiries and for client identification purposes.
• To offer people the opportunity to find out more about mediation.
• To provide a mediation service to those who require it.
• To process payments for mediation services provided.
• To carry out administrative tasks associated with running a business, such as record keeping, accounting, and review and closure of files.
• To develop and enhance our service.What information could be shared?We will not share any of your information with third parties without your express permission, except in the following circumstances:• To keep members of the public safe where there are safeguarding concerns (e.g. if we think that a child may be at risk of harm, then we have a duty to share this with the appropriate organisation, such as Children’s Services).
• If we receive evidence of an offence under the Proceeds of Crime Act 2002.
• To handle any concerns or complaints raised. In the case of a complaint, your information would only be made available to those people invited to support the mediator in resolving the complaint (their Professional Practice Consultant, or PPC), and those charged with investigating a complaint (the Family Mediation Standards Board, or FMSB). (See www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk for more information.)
• For the purpose of professional supervision, development and training, in order to ensure that mediators’ work meets all professional standards. In these circumstances, the information would be redacted and anonymised in order to protect personal identities.
• If, in exceptional circumstances, we are ordered to do so by a court.We will not contact you for sales or marketing purposes, nor will we pass your details to any third party companies for such purposes.How do we store your data and for how long?We only use third party service providers where we are satisfied that they provide adequate security for your personal data. We are committed to holding information that is adequate, relevant, and limited to what is necessary for the purposes for which it is processed. In the very unlikely event that your privacy is compromised for any reason, we commit to contacting you to inform you as a matter of urgency.Our data retention policy is as follows:• Following a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM), case notes are retained for six months from the date of the latest MIAM.
• If the case progresses to joint mediation sessions, case notes are retained for six months from the date the case file is closed or from the date of the last joint mediation session, whichever is the later.
• Electronic copies of without prejudice summaries of joint mediation meetings are retained for a maximum of two years.
• Limited high-level information such as dates of meetings and records of communications sent or received are retained for longer for administrative and business record-keeping purposes.Use of website cookies and linksCookies are text files placed on computers to collect standard Internet log information and visitor behaviour information. If cookies are used to track traffic on the Scope Mediation website, we will inform you that this is the case and check we have your consent. For further information, visit allaboutcookies.org.The Scope Mediation website may contain links to other websites of interest. Upon clicking on these links, you are moving onto another site and their terms, conditions and policies will apply when you are visiting their pages. These terms and conditions may differ from those of Scope Mediation.Changes to our privacy policyScope Mediation keeps its privacy policy under regular review and places any updates on this web page. This Policy may change from time to time. We will not reduce your rights under this Privacy Policy without consent.How to contact usFor more information about your data protection rights, visit the website of the Information Commissioner’s Office at ico.org.uk/for-the-public. If you have any questions about this privacy policy, the data we hold on you, or if you would like to exercise one of your data protection rights, you may contact us at: [email protected]. You can request to see the information we hold about you. Where this information is held on records which also contain information about another person (the person who you mediate with), the records will be amended so that you can only see the details about yourself.Should you wish to report a complaint or if you feel that Scope Mediation has not addressed your concerns in a satisfactory manner, you may contact the Information Commissioner’s Office for guidance.
Scope Mediation complaints policy
Scope of policy and who it applies toThis Complaints Policy relates to Scope Mediation, a service offering family mediation to separating or separated parents, couples and families. It is available on the Scope Mediation website at www.scopemediation.co.uk for ease of access. It applies to:
- Current clients of Scope Mediation.
- Former clients of Scope Mediation.
- Prospective clients of Scope Mediation.
- Qualifying third parties – for example, another professional who has been invited to participate in a mediation process, using Scope Mediation’s services.Purpose and aim of this policyScope Mediation is committed to providing a high quality mediation service. It is important to us that participants in mediation feel able to share their comments and perceptions, so that we can improve our service where possible and ensure professional learning where appropriate.Feedback from clients of Scope Mediation may take a variety of forms: suggestions for improvement; concerns that arise as a result of miscommunication, misinterpretation and/or misunderstandings; and expressions of dissatisfaction with the handling of a case.For the purposes of this policy, a complaint is defined as an expression of dissatisfaction which has not been resolved through initial informal attempts to clarify and settle matters directly with the mediator. We will treat a complaint as a concern which has been set out in writing as step 2 of a structured process.Our goal at Scope Mediation is to resolve all issues raised internally wherever possible for the satisfaction of all concerned. We hope the information provided in this policy is helpful for understanding our framework for achieving this and for dealing with matters which can’t be resolved in this way.Role and responsibilitiesAt Scope Mediation, we believe that all feedback deserves to be understood and respected, and to be acknowledged promptly and courteously. We recognise that the longer it takes to resolve a complaint, the more stressful it can be for all involved. We commit to moving forwards without delay with all actions required as a result of a complaint.If you make us aware that you are having difficulties bringing your complaint to us, we will take responsibility for assisting you in finding a solution to this.Mediators working for Scope Mediation are accredited with the Family Mediation Council, which oversees professional standards in family mediation in England and Wales. If a complaint hasn’t been resolved satisfactorily as part of Scope Mediation’s complaints process, you may bring the complaint to the Family Mediation Standards Board (FMSB) for formal investigation.Steps of process1. In the first instance, please raise any concerns directly with your mediator. You can do this either at a mediation meeting or by email or phone. If necessary, a suitable time can be arranged to discuss your concerns.2. If talking to your mediator has failed to resolve the issue(s) you’ve raised, you will be invited to put your concerns in writing for the purpose of formalising your complaint. The mediator will send a form to you for you to set out the issues and we would ask you to address the following questions:a. What is your complaint and what were the circumstances that gave rise to it?
b. What steps have been taken to address this issue so far?
c. How do you hope the matter might be resolved?3. Your complaint will be acknowledged within five working days and any mediation process that is underway will be paused. The other party in mediation will be notified that a complaint has been registered.4. The mediator may contact their Professional Practice Consultant (PPC) to support them in attempting to resolve the matter through discussion. In doing so, the PPC may review the case with the mediator and read the mediator’s case notes and correspondence. However, they will not investigate the complaint.5. We will aim to respond formally to your complaint in writing within 20 working days. If further time is required, you will receive notification in writing to explain why more time is needed. If appropriate, you may be offered mediation using a mutually agreed third party as a way of resolving the complaint.6. In the event that we’re unable to resolve matters to your satisfaction, you are entitled to raise your complaint with the Family Mediation Standards Board (FMSB). This is an option only where the complaint concerns a breach of the Family Mediation Council’s professional standards and where you have exhausted Scope Mediation’s complaints procedure within the last three months. Information held by the mediator may be shared with the FMSB in order to enable them to investigate the complaint.The procedure for complaining to the FMSB is available here: familymediationcouncil.org.uk/ complaints-about-mediators/ . It gives details of the complaints the FMSB will consider; timescales; the form to be used in submitting a complaint and a telephone number to contact if you need support in completing the form.